Food for thought for today:
What if the first question, when we started feeling poorly, wasn’t “what is wrong with me and how do I fix it?” but “this is interesting — what’s here?”? And for our children, what if we ditched wondering how to “fix” them and instead wondered “what’s here — what can we learn?”?
When I fell into depression, I thought I was broken and needed to be fixed. Something had gone wrong inside because I wasn’t feeling happy all of the time. I’m thinking now this mindset had me missing the point for years and years. It wasn’t until I started to wonder about why I was feeling depressed and what I could learn from the depression that anything really changed. The depression wasn’t an indication that I was broken; it was a pointer that something in my life needed tweaking.
I noticed the same kind of thing with some recent rounds of cold/flu. Rather than going the usual route of “I’m broken and need to be fixed so I can get back to everything I’ve been doing,” I spent a bit wondering why the congestion, sneezing, and coughing had cropped up. Why was I feeling so tired?
This time around I did my best to ditch trying to fix it all as soon as possible this time (though this isn’t to say I didn’t take action to start feeling better — I hopped on the elderberry syrup, apple cider vinegar gargle, and extra rest train). The interesting thing I noticed was that these rounds were popping up when I was saying yes to stuff I didn’t really want to be doing and jam-packing my day with “shoulds”. Interesting.
What if our bodies aren’t getting it wrong and don’t need to just be “fixed” when we start feeling off?