Today’s food for thought is for our teens on the idea of being “nice”:
Be nice. Be nice. Be nice. What the heck does that mean? Is this phrase loaded? A way to shut someone down/up? A cop out for getting someone to do something? Have them wondering what is expected of them? What is meant?
I feel squashed by the words. Trapped. Locked in. Be nice. BE NICE.
What does that mean?
What does that mean to me?
Dear Self: What does “be nice” mean?
I have no idea. But what I do know is to be nice to yourself.
Be nice to yourself. Maybe that is what it means. Be nice = be nice to yourself. Be kind, patient, compassionate. And extra patient. To yourself.
But Self: what about to others? Isn’t the external of being nice to others more important? I was always taught to “be nice”.
My dear: If you’re being nice, truly and deeply and kindly to yourself, you will give off the energy of kindness and love to others. You can’t be truly nice to yourself and not truly nice to others. That wouldn’t be being kind to yourself. It’s less about trying to be nice to others and more about being nice to yourself, first.