Responsibilities and A**hat Mode

Responsibilities and A**hat Mode

Responsibilities and A**hat Mode

Let’s all take a reminder for today (adults/parents and teens/kids alike):

We’re not responsible for the feelings, happiness, or emotional well being of any other person — only ourselves.

Say it with me if you need to.

We’re not responsible for the feelings, happiness, or emotional well being of any other person — only ourselves.

We can’t “make” someone someone else feel happy, satisfied, or content. It’s not our job (nor can we truly do it even if we tried and tried and tried — which, if you’re wondering, would likely end up in some codependent dysfunction where no one is happy). Each person is responsible for themselves and the only one who can truly make themselves happy, just as we are the only ones who can do it for ourselves.

Note: Saying that we’re not responsible for the feelings, happiness, or emotional well being of any other person is NOT saying to not consider someone else’s feelings when we act nor that we need to go around acting like a**hats. Let’s be clear on that. Acting in a**hat mode ultimately hurts ourselves and radiates out into the world. If we’d like to not be on the receiving end of a**hat mode (which is a crappy place to be), then we also need to not live in a**hat mode. Creating a kind, caring, compassionate, and thoughtful world involves each of us acting that way ourselves.

Care for more food for thought ? Check out Make Me Happy: On Happiness and Other People.

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