Wise words from a wise friend that I heard recently:
That’s what 2018 taught me… that life is full of ups and downs, twists and turns, love and loss, and much of it you can’t control. But on especially bad days, if you can figure out the support you need, and then give it to yourself, or ask for help from the people who love you most, then you can get through it. It might not be the easiest time, and you may not get through it in one piece, but healing is always within reach, with time and love.CR
I love this. And it’s one of the messages I hope to pass along in my work with teens (and their adults, too, because we all need support and reminders, sometimes).
Life can be messy and unpredictable and may sometimes suck to the nth degree — and getting through, healing, health, happiness: all are within reach. Maybe you won’t get there in this moment (or the next 22), but eventually — yes, you can.
And figuring out the support you need? It’s okay if you don’t know what that looks like right now. It’s okay if you’re having trouble asking for it. It’s okay if you feel like you’re floundering and flailing, making no progress at all. Let’s take a pivot: rather than beating ourselves up that things are messy, let’s consider that each attempt offers information. Information on what might help or not, a next direction to try (or avoid).
Information is good! Let’s revel in this windfall of information!! Yes!!!
We figure out the support we need by trial and error, so you’re right where you need to be (so useful I’ll put it in all caps: RIGHT WHERE YOU NEED TO BE). Take the information and keep on trying different things. You’ll figure out what works and what you need.
From where you are: Try. Sleep. Eat. Try again, maybe something else. You’re doing fine at this thing called human-ing (yup, it’s a messy thing). There are no Fs at life. There will be ups and downs, and healing is always within reach.
Here’s to 2019 and our efforts at human-ing. 🙂