What is making lots of money worth to you?
Recently I was given an opportunity to increase my skills, resume experience, and income exponentially. Sounds pretty great, but in the end, I didn’t take it.
After multiple interviews, informational sessions, and assignments I completed, I weighed my options. I could take a job in which I’d work six days a week and build a business from the ground up over summer in order to rake in some major money for myself. The drawback? In order to participate in the program, you must live with a host family for the entire summer in a different state.
Maybe if I lived at home during the year, I would have decided differently, but I live away (so less family time). Don’t get me wrong, I love my friends and the people I spend time with while away at college, but I’m also greatly looking forward to spending some much needed time with my family back home over the summer.
I’m drawn to challenges, and the temptation was there to jump into this thing that would fully change my life and just go for it, but something stopped me. As my mind tugged back and forth between the options, my computer screensaver appeared. Pictures of the people I love and places I’ve visited, among other pleasant memories, showed through one after another and I almost broke into tears.
That moment made the decision for me. I realized then and there that no amount of money would be worth missing out on making more of these memories.
Never have I ever been one of many materialistic desires. It doesn’t bother me to live with less. I would much rather work six days a week over summer but come home to see my family every day after than live away from them for a full year. There’s no justification for myself, personally, in which I could live away from the people I care about year-round with peace of mind.
This experience reminded me of my personal lifeline: my relationships. My life revolves around the people I hold dear; living year-round without them would leave a hole in my universe that no amount of money could fill. As cliche as it sounds, money can’t buy happiness. So to me, it’s much more meaningful to spend my time rather than money. There are always other opportunities in life, and if an offer sounds like the “should” option but your gut tells you that it would cost you your emotional health, it’s okay to say no.
I’ve heard that home is not a physical location. Instead, your home is a community of people that support you and weave a web of love that catches you when you fall. This web cannot be left neglected though, or the holes will allow you to slip through when you need it most.
There’s no shame in saying “no” if it means nurturing your web (take this as a reminder that most of us probably need on a regular basis in the world we live in today). In the end, money is something that offers some kinds of freedom and peace of mind, but the wealthiest people would live miserably if they lived alone in the world.
What is your lifeline? How is your web?