I recently challenged the students in my THRIVE program to write several posts on topics that meant something to them. The responses were insightful and the topics varied. Today I’m sharing two thoughts from Malia.
DO or DUE?
Every day I find myself sitting down at my long desk with my computer thinking, “What do I need to do?” and many times it turns into “What’s due tomorrow?” instead. I’ve come to realize that while there is an endless amount of things for me to DO, I don’t do them unless they are DUE.
Unfortunately, this leads to the well-known procrastination that (maybe) all high schoolers feel. When there are so many things assigned, it’s just easier to think of it in terms of what is due first rather than a long list of things I need to do. While I know in the back of my mind that I should be doing all the things, dividing them up by due date makes me somehow feel less overwhelmed and stressed, at least in the moment. So while it may not be the smartest way to do it, it helps me maintain my sanity for a little while.
“It’s fine” is something you probably hear all high schoolers going through stress say. “It’s fine, I’m fine.” The overuse of that statement displays how not-fine the experience of stress is. Stress sucks. It shows up when you wish it wouldn’t and sometimes takes forever to leave.
I’ve recently realized how important it is to be able to manage your own stress. While I’m not perfect at it, I’ve definitely improved with handling my stress. To deal with stress, I usually walk away from the thing causing me stress and take a break to either watch Netflix or do something that is not related to my work at all. It gives me time to decompress and helps my body and brain relieve itself for a little while.
Stress used to hit me like a brick, but over time I’ve learned to deal with all the stress life puts on me. Learning to self-reflect and understanding how stress affects me helped me learn how to calm down and rationally look at stress and what it does. Everyone can achieve a more mentally positive and healthy future through understanding their personal stress.
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