Struggles, challenges, wells of pain, and really, really messy times happen — for all of us. One of the things I’ve found helpful in climbing out of worry, stress, overwhelm, and depression: ditching the fight and reminding myself life is…
Give Me Promises, Labels, and Answers
I want badly to have things neatly sorted out. To know. To have all questions answered. As if somehow the certainty will help me feel better. Because then there won’t be the discomfort of the unknown. That once everything is…
Do You Like Structure? I’ve Been Ambivalent
Today I’m thinking about structure and schedules. This brain dump moves around a bit (my thought process is rarely linear; in most posts I try to make it more so, though today I’ll let it dance where it wants). There…
Suicides, Depression, Avatars
My human heart hurts when I hear about a suicide. Two have been in the news this past week and more have happened I haven’t heard about. RIP, Kate and Anthony (and all of those whose names I don’t have).…
Creating Their Own Content
The world of our children and their experience is different than ours is/was. And that’s not good nor bad. It simply is. However, the general human underpinnings, feelings and emotions, yearnings and wanting to belong — it’s there for our…
Depression, Illness View, Power
Today I offer a musing on my experience with depression. I struggled with a severe bout of depression in my later teens and twenties, and the experience and how pieces of depression are part of me continue to inform my…
A Working Theory and Other Notes to Self
Today I could use some reminders to self. So here goes: I can’t parent “wrong”. There are an infinite number of ways something could be done (and I can never know exactly what would be best for someone else because…
Like I’d Thought — And Nothing Like I’d Thought
What if life is contradictions and beauty and pain? Pain is information. You can run from it if you choose. It’s okay. Eventually — the way through is through. It’s to take one step after another. It’s to show up.…
Changing the Cat’s Pajamas
I’m getting ready for a talk on supporting our kids in building positive self image (7pm on 3/1/18 at Fisher Middle School in Los Gatos, CA, for those interested and in the area). As I’ve been refining (and retweaking and…